One common dilemma is whether it's acceptable to give money instead of a physical gift. with Sylvia Queiroz advising couples to steer clear of this situation. Wedding planners Sylvia Queiroz and Juliana Oliveira offer etiquette tips on what's polite when it comes to gifting. Choosing a wedding gift can be tricky, especially if the couple already has a home or plans to move abroad. Is it okay to give something not on the registry?